Andrea’s Advice: 10 Things NOT to do when you Want a Girl to Notice YOU

By: Andrea

Hey everyone! This list is for the GUYS (but girls, feel free to check it out to see if you agree with me). I cannot tell you how many times I have been asked about what guys should and should not do when it  comes to girls! I'm going to try to break it down to 10 points that pertain to guys of any age.

Okay, for good measure, here is a still of Joseph Gordon-Levitt trying to hit on me in 50/50... Hey, he tried right?

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1. Do NOT hide your passions!! -Seriousy, I’m not kidding here. Passions can range from sports, to comic books, to fixing cars, to computers, to playing instruments, to reading up on paleontology… and to be quite honest, girls are far more inclined to take notice in you once they realize you have your own unique passion (something you know more about than anyone else). Sometimes guys try to hide their true passions out of fear of coming off as too nerdy, boring, or weird, when REALLY it will only help you come off as being more uniquely individual. You don’t have to wear this passion on our sleeve, just be proud of it!

2. Do NOT forget to lead a healthy and active lifestyle –You don’t have to be the quarterback on the football team or have a body like Chris Hemsworth to get a girl’s attention! Maintain a healthy diet (and by that I pretty much mean no binging on fast food for every single meal), and partake in outdoor activities as often as possible. If you can prove to a girl you have a healthy/active lifestyle that will only make it easier for you to start spending quality time together (think: hikes, walks, swimming, sports, etc)

3. Do NOT live only in the virtual world –Sometimes we all get so sucked into the virtual-online world that we forget to live in the real one! Go out! Meet new people! Grab a few friends and organize some team-based activities… the girl you like will notice this. Remember- talking to a girl IRL is much more meaningful than talking via IM.

4. Do NOT hide behind your large group of male friends –Seriously, this might make you feel more confident but it can really make us feel uncomfortable and intimidated. We want to get to know YOU not your entire social circle! 

5. Do NOT kill it with the cologne –Girls will always notice when you look and smell fresh and put together BUT please, please, please don’t mist yourself with an entire bottle of AXE like they do in the commercials! Unlike the ads, this will drive the girls in the opposite direction (trust me). While good hygiene is a MUST... Know that this can be achieved in three simple steps: 1. Shower 2. Soap/body wash 3. Deodorant. Keep it simple & keep it fresh! 

6. Do NOT Peacock like a maniac! –You all know about peacocking… When a guy (or girl for that matter) puts on a little show by sporting something tacky or flashy along with an oftentimes sour attitude with the hopes of scoring points with the ladies. This happens all the time at parties! Think: neon shutter glasses, light-up belts & shirts, ridiculous hats, wearing costumes to non-costume parties, etc. While I do admit this can seem like a great idea, it will ultimately make you out to look desperate and more often than not, pathetic. Showing your silly side is great, but don’t take it too far or your crush might just start looking for someone a little more down to earth! 

[THIS explains Peacocking... Don't do it!]

[THIS also explains Peacocking ...Don't do it]

7. Do NOT wait for her to talk to you –I would give this advice to girls and guys alike! If you like someone, what’s the harm in just going up and saying hi or introducing yourself? Even though I’ve had a boyfriend for over five years, whenever an honest guy approaches me I always tell him very politely that I am flattered but taken. I don’t throw his feelings back in his face because chances are, that guy worked up a lot of courage to come over. Why not be bold and courageous? Ask if there is a movie she can't wait to see, if she likes beer-pong (my fav), or if she has ever tried paddle boarding! If she seems interested, don't panic, stay calm and say "Hey! We should go!" What’s the worst that can happen, really? You know that cheesy saying "it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all"? Well think of it this way: "It's better to have tried and lost than to never have tried at all."

8. Do NOT overdress –When we like someone, we all tend to spend way too much time fretting about what we look like. If you try too hard to put an outfit together, spend too much time doing your hair, or spray yourself with too much AXE (lol), you might end up masking over your true personality by trying to be something you’re not. Look good, and look sharp, but don’t over do it.

9. Do NOT underdress –While we have just gone over the downsides of overdressing, it is time to face the other side of the coin- UNDERDRESSING. My advice: don’t show up to a place where you might run into your crush in a tattered hoodie, flood pants, and crumbs in your hair (unless, of course, that is your thing and you are ROCKING it). Try to take pride in looking presentable. Find styles that best describe you as a person, and then try blending those styles together to find a look that best suits you (trendy, sporty, preppy, nerdy, artsy, boarder, hipster, jock). There is a good chance that once you start seeing that girl you have your eye on, she will be happy to accompany you on a shopping trip to work out your style (hey- this might even be a great way to break the ice). 

10. Do NOT be anyone but YOURSELF –I know everyone always says this, but there is a reason for it! Don’t start off on the wrong foot by giving someone the wrong impression of yourself. Be confident in knowing that you are a wonderful, and unique person. Talk about your true interests. Don’t boast, brag, or act above anyone else. Just be who you are because there is no one else on the planet quite like you! 

Would love to hear your thoughts on this list! Good luck in your love life & let me know how it goes!

XO AB